How To Keep Your Relationship Going

Many couples think that how to keep a relationship alive is through small fixes such as going on another holiday, surprising their partner with a night out or showering them with presents. These gestures alone will not keep a relationship strong and may not be feasible if you have children or are strapped for cash. There is one magic ingredient which will do much more to keep your relationship alive.

The "Big C".
Connection is the vital part of a relationship and attracts us to someone in the first place, without connection, there are no sparks. Many people think that connection is just sexual attraction. Connection is what makes you feel close and intimate with your partner. It is the oil that keeps a relationship lubricated; it stops couples from feeling stuck in the same arguments and allows couples to forgive each other for their mistakes and faults.

What men need to feel connected.
Men need the two A's - Acknowledgement and Appreciation. They don't necessarily ask for these but really do need them. Men need to be acknowledged for their practical accomplishments such as, fixing things and solving problems. Men need to be appreciated for the habitual things they do such as taking out the rubbish rather than attacked for the things they don't do such as continually show their feelings.

What women need to feel connected.
Women need the two C's - to be Cherished and Complimented. A way to a woman's heart is through her ears. It is vital that a woman regularly hears how much she is loved, how great she looks and what a wonderful mother and great lover she is. She will feel more connected when she is regularly complimented, and this in turn, will keep a relationship alive. Women also need to feel cherished, this means feeling special and adored. Men can do this with thoughtful texts and emails, flowers or an act of service such as cooking her a special meal.

Acknowledging and appreciating a man in a relationship and cherishing and complimenting a woman in a relationship will build fundamental connection and it will be much easier to keep the relationship going and sparks flying.

Keeping sparks flying.
When I think of spark, I think of that chemistry and electricity you feel at the beginning of a relationship that sends shivers down your spine, which makes you pine for your partner when you are away from them, that makes you want to talk and think about them relentlessly and ravish them at the slightest opportunity. Obviously, these behaviours are not sustainable because we need time for other things in our life like work, children, friends, family and other interests, but rekindling some of that spark as our relationship progresses makes us feel excited, loved, stops us from getting complacent and being unfaithful. Once you've built your foundation by acknowledging and appreciating and cherishing and complementing, here are some more ways to keep a relationship alive:

Indulge a woman in emotion.
The best way to get close to a woman is by showing her emotion, this can be by expresing love to her through words or gestures such as a foot massage.

Let a man be free.
Men love independence and space and will come running back to you with renewed enthusiasm if you give it to them.

Spend quality time together.
But, you can give each other too much freedom so make sure that you spend quality time together without the distraction of the TV, household chores or children.

Remember the good times.
Sharing memories of when you first met, when you got married or any other significant moment in your relationship can rekindle the happiness you experienced and help to build a closer connection.

Spice up your sex life.
If your love-making becomes routine, try different places, positions, times of the day, sharing fantasies and a bit of role play.


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Candy Jannetta is a happily married Relationship Coach and author who has helped hundreds of single men and women to find love. Want help in meeting your perfect match? Sign up for a FREE 7-day e-course on how to meet that special someone at http://www.howtomeetyourperfectmatch.com